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A Rainy Saturday And a Sunny Sunday.

  A rainy Saturday is a good day to make a two hour commute in the pouring rain just to take a restorative yoga class by a certain teacher.  Because that teacher taught you how to teach yoga yourself, and it’s her class you need on a rainy Saturday.  Not a power yoga class, or a hot yoga class, or a flow one.  Hers.

  A rainy Saturday is a good day to go out to lunch with your fiancé, best friend, best friend’s Mom, and Goddaughter.  Because who else would you casually go out to lunch around town with? If not the woman who birthed you, the woman you love, the friend who took ballet with you for a decade, & her Mom and daughter? 

  A rainy Saturday is a great day to curl up with your wife-to-be, order in Thai food, and watch The Vampire Diaries.  Because you both work so much during the week, and it’s really nice to just sit.  And cuddle.  And enjoy moments, and time together.  

A sunny Sunday is a good day to work a few hours and rub a few knots out of a few shoulders.  Because I’d rather massage a few people Sunday than work five full weekday work days.  Because I’m grateful to make a living doing something that I feel passionate about.

  A sunny Sunday is a good day to go see “The Giver” with your fiancé, because you both loved the book and you enjoy seeing movies together.  Because the work week is starting soon, and you’ll be torn apart by jobs, and demands, and responsibilities, and life.

A sunny Sunday is a good day to reflect on all that I have.  A goddaughter, a fiancé, a best friend, a mother, a lovely town, and the luxuries of going out to lunch, and to a movie.  Because they are luxuries.  Some people don’t have running water, or even a roof over their head.  Some have far less, and some even less than that.  

Saturdays and Sundays are such a good time to spend it with those that you love, feeling alive, feeling thankful, and feeling grateful.  Before it’s Monday, before it’s the work week again.  

Weekends should last forever.  

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Beach

A Birthday Beach Bash For My Sweetheart & Further Fertility Testing For Me

On Friday, which was Alana’s birthday, we jumped into two cars full of our friends and we headed to the beach.  Three of the girls were her friends, and two were mine.  We listened to Pandora the whole way up there, singing loudly and being silly.  We were stoked to not be working and to have a long, full day ahead of us at the beach.

  The weather was perfect! We snuck some sangria onto the beach with us.  Rita and Natalie, two friends that I work with and I took a long, long walk on the beach.  Natalie and I did some yoga.  The seven of us listened to music, lay out in the sun, and hopped into the ocean from time to time.

  Two years ago on Alana’s birthday her and I went to the beach alone.  It was her first birthday that we were together as a couple.  We had an amazing time together.  I still remember that day as if it were yesterday and not over two years ago.

  To have returned this past Friday with five of our friends was a really cool feeling.  I joked that we’ve picked up “groupies” over the years.  Things are really just coming together.  And speaking of coming together…

  We heard back from my doctor about the day three fertility tests.  Apparently all my levels are in normal range! That was a load of relief for me to hear.  But now…they want to take a look at my tubes by putting a dye into my body.  Our insurance company would like to have that procedure done before giving us the referral to the fertility clinic in our area.

  I won’t lie, this HSG dye test has me a bit nervous.  There’s a chance it could be painful, and I feel even more nervous for these results than I did for the day three fertility results.

  I’m going to just breathe, and push through it all.  Until we actually sit down with a fertility clinic we won’t have an accurate picture of what it’s going to take to start a family together.  A whiny voice in my head sometimes says to me “all your straight friends don’t have to go through all of this to have a baby”, but I immediately quiet that voice whenever I hear it.  I’m not straight, and I do have to go through this.  Feeling sorry for myself isn’t going to solve any of this anxiety I have.

  Alana and I have finalized our wedding and reception details with our venue and that paperwork is getting finalized this week.  I also have reason to think that my yoga teacher certificate will arrive in the mail this week, and that’s extremely exciting! Even if there’s so much to be nervous about, there’s still a lot to be excited about.

  I’m just going to try to take it all one day at a time…

 Namaste.  I hope the weekend was as good to all of you as it was to us.

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I JUST Booked Our Wedding Venue

It’s finally happened.  I’ve just booked our wedding venue.  My brain feels like it’s singing and my body feels like it’s humming.

We’ve been engaged for fifteen months! Alana got let go from a previous job the month after we got engaged, and we spent the following eleven months stressed and holding onto each other dearly.  Our engagement and our wedding got put on the back burner as she went on the journey of job searching, and I went on the journey of taking on a sole-provider role for the very first time in my life.

But things turned around for us this past Spring and now our wedding is no longer on the back burner! No, now I would say it’s very much right in front of us.

I’m so excited.  I’m so excited.  I’ve been dreaming of this day since I was a little girl.  I couldn’t think of a better person to meet at the altar.  There would be no better person.  If I don’t marry her, I won’t marry anyone.  She is the sun and the moon and I still find thankfulness almost every day that I found her.

This past weekend was fantastic.  Alana’s iPhone 4s has been badly cracked and beaten up for almost a year, and I bought her a 5s as an early birthday present .  She loves it, and I love making her happy.  =)

Iphones  We went out to Ruby Tuesday’s for a date before joining a bunch of friends for a sangria night.  On Sunday I went to an Indian food buffet with my friend Valerie, and then we saw the movie “Lucy” after that.

My heart feels like its bursting after booking our venue following such a good weekend! I have amazing friends and family…but now I’m about to start a family of my very own.

I couldn’t be more grateful.  I couldn’t be more thankful.

I hope this week is finding everyone as well and it’s finding me.  Namaste.

Dhanurasana

Art Museum-Hopping And Yin/Yang Yoga Dates

Today Alana and I took a yin/yang yoga class at a yoga studio close to our home.  This was the first yoga class I’ve taken in over ten weeks that wasn’t hot yoga.  I normally take two hot yoga classes during the week and one restorative yoga class on Saturday mornings.  Because I’ve had to “adjust” five of those restorative yoga classes on Saturday mornings to complete my hours for yoga teacher training I haven’t actually taken the class since mid May.

I don’t think I realized just how long I was going without non hot yoga.  I was aware of it, of course, but I didn’t realize it was nearing the two month mark .  It honestly didn’t matter.  I was getting all that I needed to get out of yoga.  My practice was changing, I was experiencing new things, and I was challenging myself in new ways.  My body has gotten more flexible and stronger this summer.   I’m aware of the changes in so many ways, both inside and outside of my yoga practice.

The yin portion of class today was absolutely amazing.  It was such a change from the fast-paced power yoga I normally do in ninety-five degree heat.  I enjoyed holding poses for five minutes at a time, letting my body round and letting gravity push me to the Earth as I breathed and let go.  My friend Natalie met Alana and I for class and the energy around my practice was calm and comforting as the two of them practiced around my mat.

Alana and I went to D.C. with a few of her friends yesterday and we museum-hopped through different art and sculpture museums. It was nice to be out and about and I thoroughly enjoyed the art.

All in all it was an amazing weekend.  I’m not quite sure what the point of this post was.  Maybe it was just to say that yoga constantly amazes me, whether I’m doing it in heat or out of it.  Maybe it was to express wonder and gratitude that I’ve found an amazing woman who loves to trample around to art museums and take yoga classes with me.

Either way I hope you all have an amazing week.  Namaste.

Dhanurasana

Family

Family Visits and Family Planning

My aunt and cousins flew in from Arizona last week, and this past weekend was absolutely amazing! There was a big family barbecue full of food, love, and laughter.  We went out to dinner Sunday night, and over to my Aunt’s condo last night.  Whenever they come into town every Summer we all kind of drop everything and spend as much time with them as we can.  I absolutely love it. I miss them during the year (they use to live here in Maryland with us) and family get togethers are always a blast.

Speaking of family…Alana and I have been talking a lot about our future family ever since we made that doctor’s appointment for me on August 1st.

We looked up more information on the fertility center near us that offers gay and lesbian family planning.  It turns out that they actually work with our insurance company! I called for more information and talked to a lady there for about five minutes.  I asked a lot of questions, and she was able to answer most of them.  She kept insisting that we make an appointment to come in and sit down and talk with them…and that’s exactly what we’re going to do! We need a referral from a doctor in our insurance company, so I plan on asking for one on August 1st, at my appointment.

I’ve been talking with a few friends about the journey of same-sex family planning that Alana and I are getting ready to embark on, and a coworker sent me a link to a YouTube channel.  The channel belongs to a married lesbian couple who are going through the process of starting their own family.  They post videos about the steps they are taking to start their family, their trials, their tribulations, their costs, their worries….

So I did more digging around, and talked more with my friend, and sure enough, many, many married lesbian couples have their own YouTube channels made for the purpose of sharing their family planning story.  I shared a few channels with Alana and we watched a few videos together.

I’m so, so grateful that these couples decided to create these videos! This whole process has my head spinning, and it has for years now.  We have many different options, and many different roads we could travel down when deciding just how we would like to go about starting our own family.  The costs and all the steps we have to take overwhelm me on a good day.  Many of my friends have been and are starting their own families…but these friends aren’t in same-sex marriages.

I’ve felt alone, and scared, and beyond overwhelmed by all of this.  Finding these channels has been a blessing.  What’s even better is that Alana has told me that she’s extremely “down” for creating a YouTube channel with me! She thinks that it’ll be fun and that we should share our experience, and I couldn’t agree more.

I’ve never done the whole video thing, or vlogging thing before, so I’m excited for this embark on this new project with my wife-to-be! =)

On Wednesday I took the afternoon to visit my Mom and my Aunt who is in town from Arizona.  We got to talking about life, and our lives, and I’m not quite sure how it happened, but all of a sudden I told them the doctor’s appointment we made me and what all of our plans were so far regarding our family planning.

I was so overwhelmed and blown away by how supportive they both were.  They asked so many questions, and at one point my Mom even grabbed her laptop to look up a few things like, the difference between an AI (artificial insemination) and an IUI (intrauterine insemination).

They asked me how soon we might start trying, and I was honest and told them 2016, and that was only met with more overwhelming support.  I was expecting my Mom to dislike this idea, as well as the fact that I’d like to start a family with my (future) wife.  A decade ago my Mom and I had a conversation about two people of the same-sex having their own family, and she was of the opinion that it shouldn’t be done.  So to receive so much love and support from her was unexpected, and truly a blessing.

Having her behind me is going to make what is already going to be a hard process much, much easier.

Alex and AniIn other news, after years and years of constantly desiring Alex and Ani bangles, I got a small bonus at work and decided to splurge on a bunch of them for myself.  They are perfect, and beautiful, and I can’t wait to add more to this collection!

So much is going on with my yoga practice, and I’m happy to say that it’s all good things.  This Saturday will be the last yoga class that I have to “adjust” before I’ll be handed my yoga teacher certificate!

I can’t even begin to process that, so I’m going to wrap this up.  I realize it’s been a while since I’ve made an entry about yoga so I vow that I shall do that soon.

Peace and love.  Namaste!

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Us

An Indian Wedding Off the New Jersey Turnpike

This weekend we headed out of town and into the state of New Jersey.  It was a four hour drive and we listened to ‘Summer Hits of the 2000s’ on Pandora all the way there.  I was excited to get there, and anxious as well.  I wanted enough time to get ready.  I wanted it to already be time for the wedding!

The wedding was a complete blast! They did a full Indian wedding, or the Americanized version of it anyway, so there was the Baraat before the ceremony in which we danced behind my cousin while he rode on horseback to greet his bride and her family.  I absolutely love the traditions and the customs.  I’ve always found Indian weddings to be beautiful, spiritual, and fun.

IMG_2821This was Alana’s first time attending an Indian wedding, as well as attending any big event with this side of my family.  I introduced her to many distant relatives for the first time.  It was the first time I had ever introduced them to anyone important in my life…especially that person being a woman.  I’ve always had a small fear of what it might be like to introduce my distant Indian relatives to her.  Whatever fear I had ended up not mattering.  I introduced her, and they were kind, warm, and loving.  Just like any individual in my life who I’ve ever come out to.

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The reception was a blast! Receptions are definitely my favorite part of weddings.  We drank, ate amazing Indian food, and made our way onto the dance floor with my brother, sister-in-law, and nieces.

My brother seemed genuinely disappointed when we told him that we did away with the groomsmen in our bridal party.  He asked if anyone was making a speech or a toast, and I told him that he could if he wanted to.  He started telling me how much he was going to embarrass me during his speech, and I laughed and told him that that was fine.  I’m honestly just so touched that so many of our friends and family members are excited about us marrying.  Watching my parents and Aunts with Alana this weekend was slightly surreal.  How close, comfortable, and loving everyone is getting is really heart-warming.  I know that I’m a lucky woman on a day-to-day basis, but this weekend was still somehow a huge wakeup call in the “WOW, look at all that you have!” department.

I’m gonna wrap this up before I start going into how amazing hot yoga was this morning.  Another entry, another time.  For now, more pictures.

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NiecesTwo of my nieces =)

Just An Update About How Content I Feel

Contentment This morning, on my day off, I elected to get up early and drive an hour to Baltimore to help a friend redo her website.  This friend is a yogi friend, one whom I just completed teacher training with.  It felt good to see one of my “yummies” (Yoga-univeristy of Marylanders) so soon after graduation.

Her house was warm and cozy and she made me lots of coffee.  She also made me a scrumptious breakfast burrito and offered me fresh strawberries and pineapples as I worked.  We talked, we caught up on life, we drank coffee, and we slowly put together a website for her.  My drowsiness and fatigue that I’ve been carrying with me all week from the retreat this weekend seemed to slowly melt away.

It’s amazing how being around someone so centered and pleasant and calm can make you feel that way as well, despite having walked in tired and fatigued.

I know that I was helping her, and I know that I was doing her a favor today, but I’m so thankful for people like her in my life.

She sent me home with a plate of brownies, and I came and texted both Jesse and Alana for hours.  Jesse and I discussed her book.  It feels so good that I can help her with it.  I’m looking forward to getting the hardcopy of her book in the mail so that I can begin editing it.  I look forward to all our phone conversations about the book as she continues to write it and I continue to provide her with feedback.

I don’t think I’ve ever felt this much joy at being able to help friends out.  Sure, I’ve done friends and people favors, and I’d like to think I’m a helpful person.  But…it’s different lately.  I’m different. I remember writing that same exact statement in my last entry.

Yoga teacher training has definitely changed me.  Starting yoga, period, has changed me. IMG_2661

I find myself more grateful, more aware, more thankful, and more patient.

That’s all, really.  Just a typical, slow placed day off, but somehow, it just seemed like more.