My aunt and cousins flew in from Arizona last week, and this past weekend was absolutely amazing! There was a big family barbecue full of food, love, and laughter. We went out to dinner Sunday night, and over to my Aunt’s condo last night. Whenever they come into town every Summer we all kind of drop everything and spend as much time with them as we can. I absolutely love it. I miss them during the year (they use to live here in Maryland with us) and family get togethers are always a blast.
Speaking of family…Alana and I have been talking a lot about our future family ever since we made that doctor’s appointment for me on August 1st.
We looked up more information on the fertility center near us that offers gay and lesbian family planning. It turns out that they actually work with our insurance company! I called for more information and talked to a lady there for about five minutes. I asked a lot of questions, and she was able to answer most of them. She kept insisting that we make an appointment to come in and sit down and talk with them…and that’s exactly what we’re going to do! We need a referral from a doctor in our insurance company, so I plan on asking for one on August 1st, at my appointment.
I’ve been talking with a few friends about the journey of same-sex family planning that Alana and I are getting ready to embark on, and a coworker sent me a link to a YouTube channel. The channel belongs to a married lesbian couple who are going through the process of starting their own family. They post videos about the steps they are taking to start their family, their trials, their tribulations, their costs, their worries….
So I did more digging around, and talked more with my friend, and sure enough, many, many married lesbian couples have their own YouTube channels made for the purpose of sharing their family planning story. I shared a few channels with Alana and we watched a few videos together.
I’m so, so grateful that these couples decided to create these videos! This whole process has my head spinning, and it has for years now. We have many different options, and many different roads we could travel down when deciding just how we would like to go about starting our own family. The costs and all the steps we have to take overwhelm me on a good day. Many of my friends have been and are starting their own families…but these friends aren’t in same-sex marriages.
I’ve felt alone, and scared, and beyond overwhelmed by all of this. Finding these channels has been a blessing. What’s even better is that Alana has told me that she’s extremely “down” for creating a YouTube channel with me! She thinks that it’ll be fun and that we should share our experience, and I couldn’t agree more.
I’ve never done the whole video thing, or vlogging thing before, so I’m excited for this embark on this new project with my wife-to-be! =)
On Wednesday I took the afternoon to visit my Mom and my Aunt who is in town from Arizona. We got to talking about life, and our lives, and I’m not quite sure how it happened, but all of a sudden I told them the doctor’s appointment we made me and what all of our plans were so far regarding our family planning.
I was so overwhelmed and blown away by how supportive they both were. They asked so many questions, and at one point my Mom even grabbed her laptop to look up a few things like, the difference between an AI (artificial insemination) and an IUI (intrauterine insemination).
They asked me how soon we might start trying, and I was honest and told them 2016, and that was only met with more overwhelming support. I was expecting my Mom to dislike this idea, as well as the fact that I’d like to start a family with my (future) wife. A decade ago my Mom and I had a conversation about two people of the same-sex having their own family, and she was of the opinion that it shouldn’t be done. So to receive so much love and support from her was unexpected, and truly a blessing.
Having her behind me is going to make what is already going to be a hard process much, much easier.
In other news, after years and years of constantly desiring Alex and Ani bangles, I got a small bonus at work and decided to splurge on a bunch of them for myself. They are perfect, and beautiful, and I can’t wait to add more to this collection!
So much is going on with my yoga practice, and I’m happy to say that it’s all good things. This Saturday will be the last yoga class that I have to “adjust” before I’ll be handed my yoga teacher certificate!
I can’t even begin to process that, so I’m going to wrap this up. I realize it’s been a while since I’ve made an entry about yoga so I vow that I shall do that soon.
Peace and love. Namaste!