We had this huge hiking trip planned yesterday with a bunch of my massage therapist friends. It was suppose to last all day and evening. It was suppose to be some big day, and adventure.
But the weather was cold and rainy, and everyone woke up hungover and tired, and the entire day was cancelled…and it was the best thing ever.
My partner A and I finally had a lazy day off from an overbooked schedule, wedding planning, and bickering. I finally feel grounded, whole, calm, and happy again.
Wednesday I tried on my wedding dress for the very first time, and there’s so much I want to write about it, but I just can’t. My wife-to-be and I are being old-fashioned in some wedding traditions. We don’t want to see each other on the day of the wedding until the ceremony, which is at 6:00 P.M.! We don’t want to know anything about each other’s dress! Or read anything about each other’s dress either, thus me having to not write about it.
But, oh the way it hugged my….no, I can’t!
I tried on the dress in front of my bridesmaids, and my Mother. I’m so glad that they were there. I’m so glad I wasn’t alone.
The dress is perfect, and beautiful, and everything that I wanted in a wedding dress. I took a huge leap of faith by having my Mother buy me a wedding dress that I had never seen in person, and that I couldn’t try on until it was bought! But everything worked out perfectly, because I felt like a princess, and a fairy, and a mermaid all at once.
That wedding dress fitting was followed by lunch with my bridesmaids, and then hanging out with them all afternoon. We watched Mean Girls, and made drinks, and stuffed ourselves silly with junk food. My partner eventually came home from work, and my brother came over after work as well, which led to more drinks, drunken Mario Kart, and a hilarious Burger King adventure that I’ll never forget.
After the lazy day yesterday, and so much wedding planning being accomplished and my dress being perfect, I’m feeling much more calm. I’m feeling like a happy bride-to-be again.
Today’s Maybe Baby class topic was legal issues. It was such an amazing class, and A and I learned so much from it.
I learned the term second-parent adoption, which is the adoption of a child by a second parent in the home who is not married to the legal parent of the child. A second-parent adoption allows a second parent to adopt a child without the “first parent” losing any parental rights.
In the case of my partner and I, we will be married by the time we bring a child into the world. The state we live in recognize’s same-sex marriage, and because I’ll be the biological mother and we’ll be married, my partner only needs to sign the birth certificate to be seen as the other legal parent.
….However, gay marriage is not legal in all fifty states just yet, and it’s also not legal all over the world. A second-parent adoption would allow my partner to be recognized as a legal parent whenever traveling out of state or out of the country.
There’s also some other legal paperwork we need to look into, like making sure she has rights as a legal parent even before the baby is born! In case of complications with pregnancy.
It’s sad that we have to take so many precautions, especially for our wallets, but it feels great to have this information and to know what to do moving forward.
That was a lot of talk about wedding dresses and same-sex parenting, so I’ll finish this glimpse into my life with some pictures. I hope everyone had a great weekend, and that you found some time to relax as well.